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April 12, 2007
Do Not Mess With Wifey-Bear
Dear members of my husband’s family,
This is a trying time for all of us. We’re all sad and struggling with the news that Nora is dying. We have a lot of decisions to make and a lot of stress to cope with right now.
I promise to do my best to help out where I can and to make this the best situation that it can be, given what it is. In a way it is a little bit easier for me to be slightly removed. I love Nora, but she’s not my mom or my sister or my aunt. I can help track down details and try to keep everyone reasonable when emotions run high. But, and this is a very important but, you do NOT want to get hysterical and start wildly criticizing my husband just because he has a different way of dealing with his grief than you do. I’m feeling very protective of him right now, and I will get medieval on your ass.
Sincerely,
Bad Penguin
P.S. It may be hard to tell by the above entry, but I’m actually trying very hard to develop some sort of “I will defuse the situation. I will not rise to the bait.” mantra. Please wish me luck.
Posted by Bad Penguin at April 12, 2007 10:28 PM
Comments
Oh - I hear you on the "different way of dealing with grief" thing and you are reacting just as I would - protective and leaning just a bit toward the medieval if threatened. You and your husband have some difficult times ahead with this situation...I'm thinking good thoughts and sending them your way.
I'm sorry you have to go through this.
Posted by: northern girl at April 13, 2007 10:14 AM
he's lucky to have you in his corner
()I know I wouldn't want to mess with Wifey-Bear)
Posted by: Kathryn at April 13, 2007 12:17 PM
Good luck.! :-)
Posted by: Chris at April 13, 2007 3:02 PM
Do the best you can lady! He needs you and you understand him probably way better than anyone else.
Posted by: Jerri Ann at April 13, 2007 11:45 PM
I linked to your blog through Bonnie Wren's, mostly b/c of the penguin reference. When I read your most recent entries, I wanted to tell you I just went through this exact same thing. My husband's mother died last Saturday of liver cancer. She has been battling this cancer for 4 years, and we knew for about 3 weeks that she was at the end stage. It was very difficult trying to manage my grief, be there for my husband, and try to figure out exactly WHAT was going through his family's mind when they thought playing a DVD of family pics would be appropriate at the visitation.
At any rate, I will be thinking about you and John and his family. And remember, when you feel the need to strangle someone, it's ok to get in the car and drive. It is NOT ok to strangle. (At least, that's what they tell me. I never tried the strangling, maybe it would have made me feel even better?)
Posted by: molly at April 15, 2007 10:07 AM
You are the one threatining to get medieval, so why am I the one who is always accused of having a temper? :)
I hope that you do not have to get medieval, as I would be sad. Mostly because you had figured out time travel before I did.
Posted by: tim at April 15, 2007 5:58 PM